Category Archives: Your Identity In Christ

Body Image Issues- What Are We Teaching Our Children?

I was in a department store the other day trying on clothes and right across from me was this mom and daughter doing the same thing. It was very disturbing to me listening to this conversation. The little girl says something like “I don’t like these and something about her hips are big.” Me working through my own body image issues my ears perked up. And course mom steps in and says with a loud and forceful, “No! you don’t have big hips! And,compared to who?” Obviously trying to figure out why her young daughter thinks she has big hips. The daughter names someone. Then the mom precedes to almost yell in the dressing room “You DO NOT HAVE BIG HIPS!! Which I can understand 100% But then she takes it to another level. “I’VE SEEN THE GIRLS IN YOUR CLASS” and then starts naming several names. Then takes it EVEN further saying well so and so had to have a large in something and you only had to have a small. So NO! YOU DO NOT HAVE BIG HIPS!

Are we really checking our daughters friends sizes??????

I understand being upset but it just broke my heart this little girl had to hear and see this being said about her friends and or people she knows.

This rant went on for at least 10 minutes, she belittling and demeaning other girls. Each comment penetrating deeper into this littler girls heart and mind. Realizing what truly mattered to her mom. Mind blowing if you ask me.

I’m sorry but this isn’t the way to build up your daughter. Your teaching her to compare herself even more with each comment and comparison you make.

Girls already struggle with comparison and then you are comparing her to other girls yourself.

SMH 😳

I actually felt sick standing in that dressing room listening to that mother comparing her daughter and demeaning all these other “little” girls. I just wanted to hug that little girl and tell her she was perfect just the way she is and that God loved her whether she has little hips, big hips, popular, unpopular, underweight, overweight, black, white, brown, etc.

Comparison is the thief of all joy. When we travel down this road of comparison that I sadly know all to well, it helps make things from the enemy easier to enter in. Things like disordered eating, lifelong roller coaster ride of dieting, self hating, self harm, body image issues, insecurity, etc. The list can go on and on and it can keep you in bondage like you can’t even imagine.

The enemy does a good enough job on his own convincing us we’re not good enough. He attacks our appearance, our weight, our work, our families….but what’s even more interesting is he can use the people in our lives too. People that love us and mean well.

Lord, I pray for these younger girls today to learn who they are in Christ and just how loved and treasured they are….not because of what they look like or what size they are but because God created them specifically….on purpose….and perfectly. Lord release them from the trap of comparison. Release them from the mirror and what they see or don’t like. Release them from the scale and the number they see or don’t see. Help them to not be enslaved to what the world calls beautiful but what You say Lord. Engrave on their heart Your everlasting love, and Your mighty plans and purposes for them in Jesus name Amen! 🙏

Hope you guys have a blessed and wonderful day!

Big hugs,

Nicole💗

Oh no! They’re up again!

I love that phrase and want to be that person, don’t you?

Do you know who you are in Christ?

How does the devil see you?

Does he see you as a mighty warrior of God, or does he see you as a wimpy Christian and can whip you in a minute?

The answer lies within you.

How do you see yourself? Pause and really think about this.

As a grasshopper? Or giant for God?

As a little kitten or a mighty Lion?

My friend let me tell you how God sees you.

God loves you perfectly and has an everlasting love for you.

Jeremiah 31:3 “I have loved you, my people, with an everlasting love. With unfailing love I have drawn you to myself.

If you doubt His love for you I suggest doing a study from the Bible about the love of God. If it takes you a year to get this deep inside you, that’s fine just keep studying it until you know deep down on the inside of you.

Also, begin saying out loud to yourself every day, multiple times a day that “God loves ME!God loves ME just as I am. I am growing and changing more into His image every day….from glory to glory. God loves ME.”

You can even put your own name in the sentence. There’s just something about saying it out loud and hearing your own voice declaring “God loves _____!” Try it.

Your identity is found in Jesus, all things have been made new. You are a new creation my friend.

2 Corinthians 5:17 “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.”

1 Peter 1:23 “Being born again, not of corruptible seed, but of incorruptible, by the word of God, which liveth and abideth for ever.

You are perfect in His sight. Let that sink in a minute. Sometimes the last thing I feel is perfect, but to my Savior I am, and you are too💗

Colossians 1:22 “Yet now he has reconciled you to himself through the death of Christ in his physical body. As a result, he has brought you into his own presence, and you are holy and blameless as you stand before him without a single fault.”

Ephesians 2:10 “For we are God’s masterpiece. He has created us anew in Christ Jesus, so we can do the good things he planned for us long ago.

You are a child of God and a joint heir with Jesus. 

2 Corinthians 6:18 “And I will be a father to you, And you shall be sons and daughters to Me,” Says the Lord Almighty.

Galatians 3:26 “For you are all sons of God through faith in Christ Jesus.

Galatians 4:7 “Therefore you are no longer a slave, but a son; and if a son, then an heir through God.

You are uniquely made and have a God given gift and destiny.

Psalms 139:14 “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.

1 Peter 4:10 “As each one has received a special gift, employ it in serving one another as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.

2 Timothy 1:6 “For this reason I remind you to kindle afresh the gift of God which is in you through the laying on of my hands.

Jeremiah 29:11 “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.

Romans 8:28 “And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose.”

Sweet friend God sees YOU, as more than a conqueror! You are a son or daughter of the Almighty God, the King of Kings! You are equipped with the very power of God.

If you are a Christian then the SAME POWER THAT RAISED CHRIST FROM THE DEAD LIVES ON THE INSIDE OF YOU! Yea, let that sink in. So remind the devil of who you are and Who’s you are!

Once you learn who you are the devil can no longer boss you around and you become an enemy to him and when your feet hit the ground every morning he says Oh NO, they’re up again!” Be that person!

Ephesians 3:20 “Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power  that is at work within us.”

Hope y’all have a blessed and wonderful weekend!

Big hugs,

Nicole 💗